I dated a wonderful man for a while. We were always so happy together and I loved him. He is Korean while I am white and a foreigner living in Seoul. Everything in our relationship was going great until he decided he wanted to tell his parents about me. He never expected their response. They told him to either choose me or them. They were furious that he was with me because I am white.
His parents were more conservative than he thought. They harassed and pressured him so much that he broke up with me. He confessed he didn't have the confidence to fight them all the time. He thought that if we got married we could never be happy with his parents hating us. I asked him to try to give it time or to date me in secret but he said it would be too difficult. Now I have no idea what to do. I am completely heartbroken and nothing I do is making it better.
To make things worse its like he has numbed himself. Now he acts like we never dated. Yes he still texts me and talks to me in phone calls, but its like he has turned off the love. And just says, "it's over." How can someone that was so amazing a few days ago just turn it off because his parents tell him to? He's 27 years old. Its just so hard for me to understand.
Most Helpful Guy
I can't speak for the parents but it is well known that mixed race and mixed culture marriages fail much more often. Plus children won't look like them, your values are different, he might move to US... Bad for the family and he wants his family more than you, which is not that unnatural.0
Most Helpful Girl
I am married to a Korean man. I hate to say this but if that is the ultimatum his parents gave him and he's taking it seriously, walk away. He will never change his mind. You will never understand because culturally we would never just "cut" someone out. Yet culturally there it is almost common. They never grow out of it. Abd tbh if that's the kind of relationship he has with his parents, take it from me, you are sooooo lucky not to have taken it farther with him.3
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