This made me depressed because dated for over a year and he would always tell me that he loved me and wanted to marry. And he broke up with me all of the sudden and I was blind sided. I really loved him and thought he loved me...
I already deleted everything like messages photos contacts ect... But still he creeps back into my mind. Some thoughts about the good times, but most of the time (I don't know why), the thought of him just kissing, being intimate with this girl comes up (even though I have no idea what she looks like) and it just makes me depressed...
I'm just not sure what to do. I know I'm suppose to keep busy and improve myself, but are there any better suggestions to get over someone who dumped you?
Most Helpful Guy
what I find works for me is keep focusing on what my purpose in life is and to keep working hard & pushing forward to accomplish my goals. also what I would recommend you do is not think of someone dumping you as a way to show that your ugly or worthless but rather think of it as an opportunity to meet someone better & a person that you have much more in common with. I would see it as this: when someone dumps me it's not my loss but theirs because as each day passes I'm getting better, stronger, kinder, & wiser. while the person that dumped me is only getting older, uglier, & bitter with each passing day, so why would I cry over someone who's just getting worse?
Most Helpful Girl
If you have close friends to confide in, seek them out. Spend time with them. Go out on the town, buy yourself a drink. Dress to impress (yourself, not others), smile everywhere you go even if you have to fake it. Wrap yourself up in hobbies or activities that you'd been too busy or too afraid to try previously. Smile at that cute guy sitting across the bar from you.
There's no foolproof way to get over someone who dumped you, especially when you were struck with the breakup so suddenly. There's no way to permanently write them out of your life, no matter how hard you try. What helps is to be so happy with how your life has turned out post-breakup that you don't even mind that you're single. Sure, you remember the good times with your ex and you sometimes wonder what he's up to, but then you remind yourself that you're about to go spend the weekend with your friends or you're about to have a great night out on the town. Try to recall what made you happy prior to your relationship and start from there. Good luck <3