We got together in our first year of uni, when we were 18, and we stayed together for 6 years. It was important to both of us that we waited to have sex with someone we really cared about and 6 months into the relationship we lost it to each other.
6 weeks ago I told him that we needed to take a break, I didn't know who I was outside of the relationship. He took it pretty badly and just avoided me. About a week ago I got in contact with him and we started up again. I knew that he'd been with one other girl, but he told me today that it was actually 9! He said that he thought that it was a break up and that he thought that he waited to have sex for nothing.
I don't know what to think. Do I have a right to be angry? He's had sex with 10 girls now. I was with one other guy but we never had sex, only other stuff. It makes me feel sick thinking about it.
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Sorry asker, but I don't think you have the right to be angry. As others are (correctly) saying, you initiated the break. But even more than that, you can't be angry at him without truly knowing why he did it.
I think what's making you upset is the way you are interpreting this. Maybe you're looking at it from an angle like "Oh, so as soon as we went on this obviously temporary break, he used it as an excuse to get as much action as he possibly could". But this could just as easily have been a guy trying to cheer himself up after what he perceived as being a permanent break-up. And why shouldn't he see it as permanent? Imagine if a guy told you that he wanted a break. Would you immediately process his words in a totally literal way and immediately recognise the temporary connotations that "break" has? Fuck no, you'd be devastated because you're a human with irrational emotions like everyone else. And then you'd find some kind of vice to cheer yourself up.
It just so happens the vice he needed was meaningless sex. "Meaningless" being the all-important word, by the way. As others are saying, 9 girls in 6 weeks is insane. I can't imagine he really FELT anything at all for those girls, do you? Obviously I'm technically a clueless stranger, but from where I'm saying it was actually kind of brave/respectful for him to even tell you it was 9.
It's also possible he's a petty liar hell-bent on revenge, but I think you get my point?0