Do guys mind never officially getting married? Bc I NEVER want to get married!! I have this huge fear of getting a divorce?

My parents got divorced when I was younger and it destroyed them both. Now I have a huge fear of getting a divorce. Im scared getting married will ruin everything. I always picture sceneriers or evrythibg going wrong. My biggest fear is not being happy anymore like my parents. Would most guys be okay with not officially getting married for years and years and just be a couple?


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Most Helpful Guy

  • I dont know... Most guys always dream of their wedding when they are young... (that wasn't a joke). But if i can give you any advice its this, " Love isn't a season, coming and going, changing with time. Love is an evergreen, never fading, never dieing." (E. C.) This is to say that when you find someone that you truly love you will know, and that love will last forever, never fading. You will have no problem marrying when you meet the right guy.

    And if the guy insists upon having a wedding you could just get married in another country.

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    • but thats what everyone says/feels... until they get a divorce

    • Well than go get married in mexico. Nothing will ever be legal, but you get to have a wedding. Also dont let fear control you, if you think you found the 'one' than you ave to take the risk.

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  • What is it about divorce that scares you? Is it the money/etc. that goes along with it? Or the break up?

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    • No its that I want to be happy with the same person for ever. Im scared I won't be happy bc of the divorce.

    • Would you rather live with a guy with no commitment or promise of forever and have it end, or live a happy married life for as long as it lasts? A fear of divorce is natural, but it shouldn't stop you from getting married. If you love someone, it will hurt you just as bad to break up with them, even if you aren't married. if/when you decide to marry, make sure your values are the same regarding divorce, and work hard to keep your relationship alive.

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What Guys Said 5

  • I think regardless of whether you get married or not, the potential ending of a long term relationship will shatter you whether you're married or not. Usually many of the same rules apply... so you probably have the same fears to conquer anyway if you're in a relationship :/
    Many guys won't mind not getting married, so that part shouldn't be a problem, but the other stuff, I might've just given you some bigger things to think about :)

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  • Life is full of risk. It's also possible you marry the guy of your dreams and he's killed in a car wreck. The tragedy of relationships is that the best outcome is one of you seeing your loved one die.

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  • Lmao. If you don't marry so you won't get divorced, you don't date so you won't be played, you don't initiate so you won't be rejected, you don't try anything so that you won't fail - in that case, by this logic, you will NEVER get ANYTHING done.

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  • That's pretty common actually.

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  • most guys don't want to get officially married cause it's a shitty deal for a guy, probably prefer not making it official

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What Girls Said 1

  • Even if you never get married, you might find yourself in a serious long term relationship, in which case it could end, just like a divorce, leaving you shattered. Personally I think a life lived alone is worse.

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