I just want to preface this saying, I am in a happy committed relationship with my current girlfriend. I love her and she is the best woman I've ever had in my life. I don't regret anything about our relationship.
But yesterday I came across my ex girlfriends new boyfriend (I didn't know who he was at the time). We share a mutual friend on Facebook and my friend commented on his status that randomly showed up in my newsfeed. His profile picture was of him and my ex.. so at this point I was too curious not to look. I checked out his profile and saw that they started dating exactly 1 month after my current gf and I got together (we've been together just under a year). That time line isn't really relevant to the question.
Anyways, I checked him out a bit and the obvious comparing myself to him came up. Even tho I don't in any way want her back, I had these emotions and I was confused. I see her with the new guy through pictures (I made it so I can't see posts from his page anymore) and see that she's happy and I can't help but feel a little upset that she's doing well. In my head I think that I want her to be happy, but when I see that she is I kind of hate it. During our breakup she was a really shitty person and part of me thinks she should suffer for those things. Her mother was a bit of a racist and told her that she was settling for me back when we were together, which just pissed me off. I was a college student and working part time for 3 years. Quit my job to focus on my degree and her mother used my 3 months of being unemployed as a reason that she was settling. I'm still a little bitter over that.
I don't get this way about other exes, she's the only one. I broke up with the others on good terms tho
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I don't think that what you're feeling is regret of breaking up. I agree that it's natural, especially if she was a shitty person with you (sounds like she was). It's not like you wish that person harm, but when you see someone who didn't treat you good doing well a little peice of you kinda wishes karma got to them good.5