I broke up with my last girlfriend because after we had been dating for only a week I'd come to find out she had yet to attain any independence. Its not all her fault, but the fact of the matter is that she needs money, she needs a home, and she needs transportation, and she had virtually no friends other than me, and was taking all of her social needs out of me (mind you, we had only been together for one week.)
I have an extremely busy schedule, working full time and tasking a lot of classes, and I'm against cohabitating before marriage, so for many reasons, I knew that being in a relationship with someone who could not support herself until I'd decided whether or not I would consider marrying her was out of the question.
I was never this blunt with her when I asked for us to stop seeing each other, but I did explain the situation to her in the kindest way possible.
Since the first time I told her why we had to break up, she said she understood and even explained some of it back to me in her own words. Even so, she'd ask me to explain it again the next time she spoke with me. Everytime I explain it she says she understands, but then she asks me to give her closure by explaining it again. I think she's also trying to guilt me by telling me she goes out and gets drunk to avoid thinking about me.
Is she actually confused, or is she just trying to get my attention? How can I best respond to her so she can move on and we can both be over this?
If she responds and keeps on trying to guilt me, or drudge up the past, then I'm going to have to stop responding to her. Thanks for your input everyone!
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OK so tried to kill herself because a man stopped talking to her come on you got to be kidding, i lived with someone who beat me, was living a double life, mentally tortured me and I never thought of doing this. You only dated a week i think you will find that you have gained yourself a nutter you dont owe her anything if she has no money no job and no transportation this is her problem and tbh i have two children i work very hard and I have all of those things no one handed me them on a plate you need to get rid of this woman she will just drag you down. She needs to know the value of things herself and she won't until she has gained them herself i take people for who they are but if they are not willing to put the effort in themselves a little i would stay clear0