There's a guy, I don't know whether to call him an ex boyfriend, but it did feel like we more than friends at one stage. We were really close. We used to talk a lot and we even kissed. Then he just switches on me and it felt like he didn't care about me anymore. He ignored my phone calls and texts. This really hurt me. He made me feel worthless and I felt like I'm a nobody to him. I texted him a few days ago, asking him to come see me, when I feel ready to talk to him, as I'm still hurting. Even though he hurt me, I guess apart of me still cares for him and I'm trying to get over that. I said I just wanted to talk to him to get things off my chest. He said yes, that sounds fine. I feel I need to talk to him and tell him how much he hurt me. Will seeing him in person bring me closure and help me move on?
Most Helpful Guy
You haven't described any events that occurred. You've only described feelings that you had. I'm not sure what this closure that you're wanting is, but I get the impression that it too is a feeling, and not anything that has to be gained through whatever scenario you think is going to play out.0
Most Helpful Girl
Awww girl, first of all hug! You don't deserve that from a friend or a boyfriend or anyone! You are not defined by how an inconsiderate guy treats you. Are you really looking for closure? Do you think that maybe a tiny parts of you wished he would say "I messed up" and want you again. I'm not saying this is going through YOUR head, but it's happened to me. I'll think I want closure, but a part of me wants him to prove me wrong and fix the situation. And also, although telling him your hurt feelings will bring closure, ask yourself if your willing to take the chance to hear him say sorry, but I guess I don't feel the same? Do you want him to see that he broke your feelings or do you want to show him your strong when you talk to him? These are some questions you need to ask yourself. Keep in mind not encouraging you to avoid him and create awkwardness whenever you see each other. I just think you need to gather your thoughts before you say anything. But if you're the awesome type of person who can speak her mind and get her troubles of her chest, and move on despite what he says, go and tell him ASAP. Hope I helped!0
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