So I thought I was in a wonderful relationship with an amazing guy. We had been together for a little over a year and everything seemed great and I was so happy. We originally lived in central California, not together but separately, he lived in a town 45 mins away from me and would come to see me once or twice during the week and stay every weekend. We both had been divorced and both have children from our marriages, I have a son and he has two girls. He was 6 months out of his marriage when he met me. Anyways, he is in the navy and got stationed to southern california. I stayed in central California when he moved. He was there for about a month, I had came to visit him twice (7 hour drive) as I also have family down there. He decided he missed me too much, we had been dating 7 months at this point, and asked me to move down there to be with me. I was a little hesitant at first, as I had many friends where I was at and a decent job, but I loved him and also loved the city he was in and it's a good place for my son to grow up. So I asked him several times if he was ready for this and the commitment and he said yes and I decided to pack my things and go. We had a happy life in a house we rented 6 blocks from the beach, everything seemed fine. Then about 2 weeks ago he had to go to Japan for a week and when he came back he seemed a bit distant. I asked him if he was okay and he told me how he misses his kids and it's hard around the holidays. Sunday night we were getting ready to lay down and he asked me why I loved him. I told him because I thought he was a good person and he told me he's not and just said flat out he wants to break up. I was so devastated. He said that things moved too quickly, that our relationship seems more like a marriage and it made him uncomfortable and he wasn't ready to be a family unit and he wants his freedom back. I have been beside myself and crying constantly til then. He's not kicking me out right away, he says he still loves me but
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I think it's within your right to know why he wants to break up. Ask him.
Sounds to me like he has either done something bad or just feels like he doesn't deserve you.
Ask him why he asked you why you loved him before he broke up with you. Ask him if there's something you can change.
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