"You shouldn't have to make me happy. That is ridiculously unhealthy. I have to be happy with myself first before i can be happy with anyone else. And thats what i'm working on is me. I'm trying to find things that make me happy again."
I don't understand this, she says I made her happy. It was hard for her to see me try. I didn't care if I tried I did it because I care.
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It means she doesn't like herself and she is in maybe a mild depression, she doesn't know what to do, where to go and still searching for herself and that bothers her cuz current uncertain situation and not knowing who you are is killing her and making her happy. Only thing that makes her happy is you putting full effort to make her happy. But that won't do any good to him cuz when she is happy with you she is just lazy to try to find herself and she defines herself and her happiness with you. But she knows in te long run this will ruin both of you and your relationship: one is always trying to get things happy, the other one is getting more dependent on the other one to feel happy... The relationship is getting close to a deadlock and she knows she cannot nurture a relationship neither help it to grow to become a serious and lifelong relationship. So she needs to find herself, define herself, her goals in life and finds what she likes and wanna do before commiting to a relationship.. Once she gets to know herself she will know she is ready for a relationship and grow with a person...1