I dumped my ex because I saw signs of potential abuse. I hated being single again. I am over him but I was definitely thrown when I saw how he could be dangerous.
My new boyfriend is someone I would have liked. He wasn't just anyone. I wasn't expecting to find a relationship and he wasn't the first guy to give me attention just the first guy I liked who gave me attention.
However I am still traumatized by my last relationship, but even if I waited a few months I would still be scared of the same things that I am now (meeting another abuser)
Don't we learn through dating anyway?
I truly like my new boyfriend a lot he isn't just a rebound to me.