my boyfriend of three years has been being hurting me so much. I've cried all the time and we stay fighting. I keep telling him that he's hurting me and he says okay. It's clear to see that he doesn't care but he claim he does care and he doesn't like hurting me. I asked him why he's been acting this way and he says he doesn't know. Why hurt the person you spent three years with for "no reason"? I tried breaking up with him and he told me he doesn't want me to leave him. Yet I called it off for good. Do you think he misses me or not? Please answer all my questions- thank you.
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I really don't go out of my way to hurt someone I love. Most of the time it's unintentional. Before it escalates into something that involves screaming and throwing things, I try by method of reasoning, by example and by comparison or role exchange. If my message doesn't get across or the other person is either being emotionally immature, irrational and stubborn or uncompromising, selfish, self-centered, attention hogging, smothering, needy or just being a bitch I shut off and push the person away by either leaving and finding my own space to calm down and take a break. But sometimes it's hard when we share a living space. When it comes down to that I hold my ground. It really depends on the other person based on their own relationship experience, emotional intelligence, and ability to compromise and how quickly the other person calms down (ties in to emotional intelligence and accountablilty). I find that most women don't hold themselves emotionally accountable to their reactions, and have a difficult time of letting go of a grudge and being forgiving. I try to make it clear in the beginning that I too am not perfect and if I make a mistake I hope we can either talk or work it out. I also hope there's space for forgiveness.0