My boyfriend of one year and I took a break and during that break he fucked my best friend (who liked him the entire time, and I told him and he always brushed it off). I took him back a month later, and he was coming to me in tears, crying his eyes out with a ring and a bunch of letters he wrote me. Two weeks later, he leaves me again and two days later he has a new girlfriend. He left me with the excuse that I deserve better and that I shouldn't suffer with the pain he inflicted on me anymore. It hasn't been a month yet and I'm hearing they already had sex (she has quite the reputation, I'll tell you that), she's gotten him in a lot of a bad things and he's just so different now. He is so hostile towards me also, and I didn't do anything. He moved on so quick for someone who "loved me to death". I am in so much pain and this is still so hard to overcome... why would he do this to me?
Most Helpful Guy
He's telling you that you deserve better than him because it's the cowards way of saying that he isn't interested anymore. He's not trying to spare you, he's just trying to make you feel better without telling you the truth. There is no way to say any of this without making it hurt more... If he had a new girl two days later, he was probably talking to her long before that.
Like the first poster said, he is right when he says you deserve better. He moved on some time before he showed you that he moved on. It may just be a replacement, so he doesn't have to think about missing you, but he sounds very selfish and not the right guy for you.0
Most Helpful Girl
Many of today's toms are sporadic, unpredictable and grow cold duck feet whenever feeling cornered or scared and... waddle Quickly back into the murky waters in which many times they end Up-------He leaves me again... this bird is no exception to my golden goose rule.
Bottom line is, pris09, this dick didn't want a Real Relationship with you anymore. He wasn't ready nor raring to be hooked at the hip with You or just any chick, and with him getting cozy with your bestie, who I feel now should be nothing More than a fair weather friend, he ended coming back to you after the fact and f*ck, and with his crocodile tears, dear, he ended up screwing you all over again by Tailing some other newfound newbie.
He can't be trusted, sweetie. He never really "loved me to death," but just Back-stabbed you instead. Should you have continued down this beaten path of War of the Roses with this not so fine feather fellow, it would have only ended up a Dead end road and Detour to more doom and destruction.
You deserve better than what you were getting. He may even have this problem child pattern of coming to you with soft soap and sagas whenever something doesn't pan out with one, purposely Inflicting you with more suffering and soap box sitcoms.
He 'Moved on' a long time ago when you and he took this break and he decided to fly the nest with your flap happy friend... you just have realized he is this horse of another color now, and with his Hostility and resent towards you for you not Having to even have Done 'Anything,' he is Just-------Different now.
He is Right about one thing... you deserve better.
Good luck. xx0
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