So I moved in with my boyfriend about 6 months ago, and everything was fine until a week ago he told me out of the blue he wants to break up. I live in a 2 bedroom house with him with my son. He moved in here first and begged me to move from my hometown to be with him. Anyways things were great and amazing and I was the happiest girl in the world. Until for about 2 weeks he was acting distant and I asked why and he said because of the holidays and he missed his children. Then one night we were laying in bed together and he told me he wanted to break up. So now here I am broken and lost, on top of that since I left my job to move in and we agreed I'd go back to school I currently don't have means to move out right now without a roommate and I paid rent already so I have to stay here til January. So it's been a week and a half since he broke this to me, I've been crying everyday and hardly eating and going to my cousins or gmas house to escape it. I was gone all weekend, and over the weekend I told him how I hated this and he said "I know, it's not fun". Come to find out he's been asking his friends opinions whether he should go through with the break up and his mom told me she talked to him and he is torn. I didn't do anything wrong to cause him to do this. So last night we sat down and watched a show, then something came over me to go lay on his lap. He looked at me in the eyes and I told him I still love him and he said he still loved me too. We had both had a little to drink at this point. I kissed him, and at first he didn't kiss me back but then he grabbed the back of my hair and kissed me very passionately. He went in the shower and I followed, and he kissed me more but we didn't have sex, he said it's too much. Then he came to bed with me and fell asleep with his arms around me. Now today nothing has been said about any of it. He went to bed around 7, in my bed (I own all the furniture). I feel like an idiot and I'm afraid he's going to say it was a mistake.
Most Helpful Guy
Unfortunately you need to find out whether he meant last night or not.
You could ask if there is anything you can do to change his mind, like anything that's making him unhappy?
Maybe it's irreparable though. If he misses his kids there's nothing you can do to influence that other than say he's free to have them to stay or free to see them when he wants.
Maybe there are some reasons he's unhappy and you can help, but you can only help if he let's you. Good luck!0
Most Helpful Girl
That is a really really shitty situation. The real question is, do you want to be with someone so fickle?
I mean, you might get back together, and then you'll be constantly worrying and wondering when he's going to drop the next bomb on you. Not healthy at all. As soon as you're able, I think you should leave.2