Im in a long distance relationship (he comes home in 2 days). I'm worried that my boyfriend is cheating. I'm also really insecure so I don't know if its my insecurity or if this gut feeling is something I should listen to.
-he snapchats other girls, one girl in particular. when i ask him about her he says they are only friends and they don't talk or hang out.
-he will Skype me, say his 'guy friend' is the person texting him so much, then when i say "text me?' he lies and says his phone will die so he doesn't have to
-He isn't very sexual. its an LDR but still..
-He goes totally off the radar and won't contact me for hours, especially late at night
-When we fight he wants nothing to do with me, says he 'is busy' and will not tell me why
BUT when i ask him or accuse him at all, he gets really upset. He says I should trust him and that if he wanted to be single, he'd just be single. He says if he was to do that to me, he'd tell me first, and that he never will. He is still affectionate, even if we have fought non-stop he will tell me he loves me and be a sweetheart to me.
But part of me KNOWS that if i ask to see his text message history when he comes home, he would refuse.
What do I do? I love him but I'm so worried. How can I find out if I can trust him?
Most Helpful Guy
it does sound like something is going on... sorry to say. his behavior seems to indicate that he is maybe doing things he shouldn't. now him being MIA for hours could just him out being social but the snapchat thing might indicate who he is being social with which does raise a red flag.
as a person who has been cheated on twice, unfortunately signs often times are only that, signs. the could just be flags but nothing else is going on but it could be something is going on. what do your instincts say? perhaps you could talk to a friend who knows your guy and may be able to provide insight based on their knowledge of who he is0
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Long distance relationships, helpha, are One of the hardest Relationships to Hold and to Uphold of any... it take two to tango and two to put the time and take the patience into Being in this kind of relationship. And if only One is making the concerted effort to be at One end and on the other end, something isn't smelling right in Denmark, there is a strong possibility That-----This gut feeling is something I should listen to.
You have a few of the sure signs that he just might be Snap, cracking and popping with 'Other girls, one particular girl.' This could Easily Explain all his lame duck excuses and the ill feelings you are having in the pit of your stomach... I don't believe it's just your Insecurities.
You say he is 'Coming home in 2 days.' Open lines of communication is one of the most important factors in Any relationship, long distance or right next door. You both need to sit down and get this all out in the open. No matter how 'Upset' he gets, if it's a million times over, tell him you need to talk this out like two soul mates... and with him Now changing his tune to "We'll see what happens," this is also telling me that I don't need to look at any of his 'History,' I pretty much have his number. He may not be 'Cheating' physically right now with any One girl, but when a guy is playing around online with another and Others, he is in essence 'Cheating' and Cheating you... he may want his cake and it Two and not want to lose you.
Do some soul searching... and keep your eyes open. There may be more signs of the times now that he is back and may do even more------behind your back... stay on your guard.
I am in a LDR with a husband out in Egypt.. I recognize a few of my own 'Signs' that I pulled on him being back home... trouble was, this Muslim man wasn't stupid. The reason Still our marriage hasn't gone dead in the water is because he has forgiven me and loves me unconditionally. However, he can never really trust me now.
Good luck. xx0