I just broke up with the man I've been seeing for four months yesterday and I feel like it was a no-fault break up. He told me that he was still stupidly in love with his ex. He said that I was a great person and there were times in the relationship when he did feel something for me. He said he was still hurt from the break up and he didn't know what to do to fix it.
I told him that he pretty much made his decision that he did not want to be with me and that we should just let it go. He said sorry and that was it.
We broke up before about a week ago, but I contacted him stupidly. At that time he said that he was okay with us still being friends. I don't want to be his friend like that.
I really don't want to end the relationship to end so I'm wondering if I did the "no contact" method that it might work in the situation.
Most Helpful Guy
Hey my gf did the same thing left me like that to "find herself" only to go back to an ex who left her. I was the bf she never had and showed her a different approach on life. She would rather go back to an ex and throw away 11months like that. It's slap in the face honestly. When she knew what kind of guy she had, she sacrificed me to try again.0
Most Helpful Girl
I guess it's possible that if you break all ties he will realise that he was a fool and that there is no point in bemoaning the loss of his ex. Regardless of that, you should still do no contact. Not because you're hoping that he will come back and forget about his ex, but because you need to move on. The only way to move on is if you stop ALL contact. The only way for someone to miss you is also no contact. But first and foremost you need to move on, if he ends up coming to his senses that is a bonus, but should not be your main motivation.1