we all have a list of qualities, of passions, of values that make us proud about ourselves, we have accomplishements, we have well payed jobs, good friends and loving families.
each one of us, when in a good mod, can make a self portrait or a list of qualities and say "damn! I'm a great catch! too bad I can't date myself!"
but when we are rejected, when we get dumped, we feel terrible, we feel like we have no value, like we aren't good enough, like we aren't worthy... why does this happen and how can we regain our self esteem after rejection?
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It's likely that if a person feels so down after a rejection or being dumped, their self esteem is already low so it isn't a question of how to regain self esteem but to actually attain self esteem. Self esteem doesn't come from others accepting you or another individual at all, it comes from within, its something that's cultivated by knowing that you as a person are not defined by anybody but yourself. The worst mistake an individual can do is to base their happiness on their relationships with others, as they say "you first have to love yourself before you can truly love others" it also applies to Happiness you have to be happy with the person you are before you can share happiness with someone else. Happiness includes having a high self esteem. In conclusion, who cares if one is rejected or dumped, it doesn't define you, and in the long run its for the best, you can only reach better things once the useless ones are out of the way.1