I have been with my boyfriend for a month but we rarely see each other and every time I make plans with him he says he already has plans with his best friend.
I got angry at him and said how I truly felt and he only replied with 'i've known her since we were kids and I haven't known you all that long, my best friend comes first and if you can't accept that then maybe we shouldn't be together'
I'm not so sure I feel comfortable with another girl being around my boyfriend more than me :( but he says their friendship is purely platonic.
So should I just break up with him or pull through?
- Break upVote A
- Pull through/continue relationshipVote B
His best friend has cancer so he always cancels on me because he says he's worried about her and needs to see her.
She doesn't know that I exist or that he even has a girlfriend yet.
Most Helpful Guy
That is difficult. He has a point. However, if EVERY time you make plans he has to cancel, then you need to ask him, best friend or not, how much does he values your relationship? Can't he give more time for the relationship? Is not weird for him that his FEMALE best friend doesn't let him go out with his girlfriend?0
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think he's a bad guy. If I had a long-time friend who had cancer, they would definitely take priority over someone I had only been dating for a month.
But if you're unhappy with the amount of time and attention he's giving you, then sure, it makes sense to break up and find someone who is better suited to meet your relationship needs.
Although, it is a bit shady that he hasn't mentioned to her that he's seeing someone, I suppose. That seems like something you'd mention, at least in passing, to your best friend.0