She left me about eight months ago. I lost my job and got really sick. I got arrested and she packed up and left before I got home.
Most Helpful Girl
Talk to her and see if you will agree to go to counseling with you do that y'all can make things better.1
Most Helpful Guy
It sounds like there is some emotional trauma and disconnect between you two.
What is more important than what you were arrested for is the connection you used to have.
I have to ask, did you have sex before marriage? It matters. If yes, it can really hinder the bonding that should have happened before.
The truest form of a connection happens with the heart. It can go very deep, or just be superficial. Sounds like her heart is walled up and cold to you. Not vulnerable. Not submissive. Have you earned her soft, feminine heart? Do you deserve it?
It is a treasure worth more than all the money in the world. It can make a man- or destroy him.
Yes, you should tell her. But not just blurting out the words... Look deep inside of her heart. Reach out for that connection you two once shared. Touch her, if you can, physically, her arm, gently, and tell her, how much you care.
Resolve in your heart that you will recognize how important she is to you. How she means the world to you- and treat her so. She will reciprocate as that connection is restored and repaired. I always recommend seeking God, as He has repaired so much damage in my soul.1
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