My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years, 1 of which has been long distance, In the past year we have been falling apart and I can't handle it anymore. I love him so much but our relationship is going nowhere, even though we both want to settle down together, because it will be at least 2 years more long distance and we have SO many problems because of it. We aren't the same anymore and I am completely conflicted with whether or not I should end it.
To make matters more complicated I have started falling in love with another man who I just connect with on so many levels. He has just got out of a long term relationship and has hinted that he cares for me but says he doesn't want another relationship now. We have been meeting up and I'm literally falling head over heels for him when I wasn't supposed to. I would end my current relationship to be with him in a heartbeat, or at least if I knew he would consider a relationship with me in the future as, to be honest, I am perfectly happy with just hanging out with him and being in his company.
This other man is confusing me as he has told me things (albeit when drunk) that make me think he properly likes me and he is affectionate when sober but sometimes I get the feeling he is trying to end whatever is going on. For the past few weeks he has wanted to come round to my house to spend time with me and said he turned down other offers in favour of me but he has turned my offer down twice now. I'm fretting so much that he is getting back with his ex or he has decided not to see me anymore... i really do care about him but because I'm selfish and afraid of being alone I don't want to break up with my boyfriend for the possibility that the other man will be with me in case I lose both.
My head is all over the place and I need to decide what to do about my boyfriend. I can't do this to him anymore. The problem is that I won't know what the other man feels before I decide, if I ever find out what he feels. :(
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YOU ARE A CHEATER! I don't care if it hasn't gotten physical you have feelings for this guy, you told him you like him, and you keep seeing him. The fact that you said you'd dump your bf if you knew you had a backup bf speaks volumes to your character. You can't possibly love him if you're willing to do that. Break up with your bf he doesn't deserve to have his gf fawning over another guy ready to do him the first opportunity she gets. How would you feel if your bf was doing this behind your back? You'd be on here complaining about what an ass he was. I hope this new guy is just using you, you deserve it.0