I used to be this sweet innocent girl. I waa very quiet, shy, not outgoing at all. I finally got a boyfriend and he became my first everything; love, kiss, sex partner... You name it, he was the first person I've shared it with. After 3 months in, he would go out of town, not call me for days then act like nothing ever happened. He would get mad at me over stupid things and he used to cheat. Anytime I would say it's over he would beg for my forgiveness and of course I would forgive him.. I loved him. Anyways, he cheated and I lost all trust. We tried it once again. Not too long after his EX claimed to be talking to him again but you can tell it was more than friendship. I gave up and moved on.
Through it all, I became really evil, angry, and a cold-hearted person. I knew and know he had changed me and I had to try to change myself back from being a mean person. I wish I can go back to the way I was before him but I can't. Im finally able to move on but im still angry. I want to reach out to my EX and try to let go of some of this anger because most of it came from him. Is it a good idea to talk to him about how hurt I am from him or should I just find other ways to move on?
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I have been where you are now. I also wanted to tell these guys how much their hurt me, and yes, in some cases I fantasized about revenge (never done that though). More than once I ended up telling these guys how much they hurt me. I always thought I'd feel so much better once I got those things off my chest. But you know what? I didn't. In some cases, I actually felt worse because it was sort of like "I gave them the satisfaction".
You can be the person you were before him. In fact, you already are. You never stopped being that person. It is natural to be angry, to be disillusioned, to be hurt. This will all pass. It takes time. There's not much you can do. You just have to wait. One day you will realise this guy was just a little bump in the road and you will look back and laugh at what an asshole he is/was. Trust me that you haven't lost the person you were.0