How do you get over an ex and stop checking their social network sites?

An ex and I broke up about 10 months ago after 5 years. She was my first real love and I was her first for everything. She started dating someone right away. I waited months and started dating someone else. She's a nice girl, and my ex and I still speak from time to time, but somehow it always ends with an argument (she said she can't be friends) and it sucks because I can't help but feel something for my ex, and every blue moon I check her social sites to see if she's doing okay. How do I stop doing it? How do you completely get over an ex?

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  • Block her and remove her everywhere. Phone, Facebook, Twitter, instagram, whatever. Go out and do stuff. And simply DON'T look at her social media. You're in control of your own actions. You stop doing it by not doing it.

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  • Can't, I'm still doing it 4 years down the line, but not because I'm in love with her anymore but just to see whats going on with her, I still loved her or felt strongly for her for like 1-2years after we broke up, time really does help and it's different for everybody, the fact that she dated another guy after pretty much no time with me also is what made me really sad/wanting her, basically it's just the chase and you just want her again, thing is if you had her your mind set would change again after some time and her not being this so important thing that you need, the major thing that can change you and stop you from doing it is finding another girl, its really the only thing that sets you free from it.

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  • Well, I always believed that there are 4Rs for moving on.

    1.) Return of things. Try meeting up with her not for final sex, but for returning of everything she has given to you and by everything, even the tiniest and most insignificant thing she has ever given to you. Return EVERYTHING that reminds her of you. Even a keychain (if ever she has given you one). Always remember the tiniest spark can ignite the biggest flames.
    2.) Reverse bitterness. Think of things that will make you hate her. Think of her worst personalities, your worst fights, her grossest habits, the things you hate about her, but don't tell this to other people. Keep to yourself and always remember even if you two aren't together anymore, let's not forget to respect her. Just think until you don't like her anymore.
    3.) Rebound. As bad and as controversial as this step sounds, it's really quite effective. Enough said.
    4.) Revenge. No, not on her, on your past self. Get revenge on your heartbreak self by being a better person and not repeating the same mistakes all over again and I guarantee you, by the end of this, you'll be better.

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  • I went through something similar, bit with my ex bestfriend. I know it may not seen as severe, bit she was my best, BEST friends. We were like sisters, but then she lost some weight, and decided she didn't need me anymore. That really hurt. So of course I cried my tears, but I slowly but surely began to recover. It takes pure discipline not to check her page. Ik because I have to stop myself from check her page sometimes. The more you do it, the easier t gets. Time heals all wounds.

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    • Aww I'm really sorry to hear that. :( Sounds like she was never a genuine friend. People like that really piss me off. I bet if something happened where she gained back her weight or something really bad happened to her she'd come crawling back to you. You're better without her in your life.

    • Thank-you. Isn't that what always happens. Smh. People are SO shallow, they always forget who was there for them in the beginning. It's sad because you could've sworn that person is better than that, but I guess that's where're the saying, "You think you know a guy" comes from.

  • Unfollow them. I know I Facebook you can unfollow someone and still be friends with them, probably other sites do this as well. I did this, and at first, I still searched them but now I realized, I only searched them when I was bored and I stopped myself. Now it's easy. Out of sight out of mind.

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  • tell her. That's what i did. Was with my ex for 7 years. He dumped me. Then I would check his Instagram and see photos of him having a great time and whatnot so I just came out and said look. Block me and I'll block you and that will be the end of it. And we did, and that was the end of it.

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  • Focus on the new girl. I know it sounds dumb but it's cool how powerful our minds are, especially when we take control. When you see the new girl think, "Look there's ___, she looks gorgeous." lol I know this is weird. When you see your ex think, "Shucks, she's here. I need another problem in my life." The reason why this works is because you see your ex and wish u could have her, and you see the other girl as a replacement. When you start thinking differently you'll be happier and satisfied.

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  • It take time but to be honest with you, you never really get over and ex especially if their your first love and you keep checking on them doesn't help either. STOP checking up on her. Find something to get your mind off of her. Once you do that it well be like you never knew her. Your life will get better.

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  • but the best way that you can try to get over you're ex is just trying not to make contact with her , not looking through her stuff , just to avoid her , and do things to get her off you're mind , yeah it might hard but if she did it right away and got with someone after you guys broke up then how come you can't do it?

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  • try to find a new girlfriend that will make you forget about her and all the stuff that you used to do.

    even if they say that its impossible to forget the first love and the first kiss.

    and i'm sure when time passes you will forget her and try to not think about her , also block her ,
    because if you don't forget her now , you may suffer in the futur.
    i hope it helped

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  • You can't move on if you still talk to her from time to time. That's not being fair to yourself or the new girl you are dating. I used to put a terrible ringtone for an ex and changed his contact name to "Do Not Answer." Then I eventually blocked his number. As for the social sites, maybe it's time to unfriend her. It's for your own good.

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  • take a breath. Right now as you read this. Okay, you need to pull back and spend time with yourself, go out and walk, just think, if you want to think about her, go ahead, be very honest with yourself. Just relax and learn to be alone and very in touch with your thoughts. When you learn to be alone, other people become distant to you in a way.

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  • Block her or erase your account. Stay away from the social media for a while. Afterwards focus on what you want do with your life. Make a set of goals and focus on that. From time to time your gonna still think about her but don't give in to those thoughts focus on the goals exluding her from your life. Be a man and show her you don't need a woman to be successful.

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  • Listen to me Man , I'm facing the same shit as u but my story is less miserable than urs. I've been with her for a year and we were friends. Whatever we broke up cz dhe went back to her ex!
    U can get over her by being a Man ! Nothing else. Imagine urself as a green hulk running through mountains or a soul flying over the seas. Dont block her or anything bcz u will unblock her later. Trust me. U decide to get over her u will, u decide not to, u'll stuck in ur bed depressed and crying.

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  • We all have things in life we have to do that we may not like. Maby work sometimes. If u wanna get over her I think u need to distance ur self from her for a while. U can't have a healthy relationship with an ex if one of u still has feelins for the other. Best way to get over drug addiction is to simply not have the drug. Exes r the same.

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  • WILL POWER and the TRUTH. Do you really want to drop your ex? Don't lie to yourself and do not lead her on if you are done dealing with her. If you hurt her the wrong way. It could leave a permanent scar on her heart.

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  • Time and distractions. This was a super long relationship, so it's gonna take time. Even she will be looking at your profiles for a long time. Once thing that can help is keeping yourself busy (art, working out, instruments etc) . I started playing guitar to get over a girl who rejected me in like grade seven (lol) and now I'm aspiring to be a musician. Channel that energy somewhere else. You will get over her much quicker and healthier that way.

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  • Time my friend, only time. Social media had increased the anxiety and length of time for someone to get over a break up. had this been 20 years ago you wouldn't even give it a second thought by now.

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  • You have to make a clean break or get back with your ex.
    You can't have your ex and the new girl. It isn't fair to the
    new girl. Block her and change your phone number.

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  • Every time you feel the pain find some way of venting it out. Like pumping weights, boxing get real aggressive. You really need to desipline your body not to head in her direction. Do your own thing

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  • Been in the same situation and the only way to get over them ks to find someone else to love.. Period.

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  • Well get yourself a better and badder new lady , that puts the old one to shame or makes you say wtf did I even date her ugh...

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    • God I know that feelin saw an x in the mall the other day I had to wonder what I saw in her in the first place.

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