To keep it breif, he and I were dating for about 3 or 4 months. Things were going very well, but after leaving for a week long trip, I reached out to him and he claimed he thought we should go our separate ways & that he wanted to see someone else. It was truly out of the blue & I was not expecting that honestly. Following that I cut all contact with him & never spoke to him ever again. Fast forward to 3 weeks later, which was yesterday and I got a message from him. He said he made a mistake and that things were going well and he messed up. He also said that he wanted something more serious with me. He said he wouldn't have reached out to me if he didn't think I was important & he missed seeing me.
I've never been in this situation before. What do I do? Is a second chance worth it? I did like him a lot.
Most Helpful Guy
A short an simple answer I have always lived my life by is don't give people second chances as far as relationships go. So what you want but people honestly don't change so the mistakes they make the first time they will repeat. I know sometimes people actually do change but I have found that using this policy of mine and never doing a relationship over has made me happy and iv never regretted it. Hope that helps!2
Most Helpful Girl
I can give you advice, but honestly it's what's in your heart that counts. I can understand you wanting to get back with him - is there a nagging feeling in your heart telling you you should? or does it feel more silly? sometimes there is no logic to love.
My current boyfriend cheated on me when we first started dating, and all logic was telling me to dump him and move on, but there was this nagging feeling that I should give him another chance - so I did, and we've been together for almost 2 years now and are planning a wedding. It worked because he made every possible effort to prove to me that him being too drunk and cheating was the biggest mistake he'd ever made, and that he would never, ever do that again, and he never has and it took a long time, but I trust him again.
When someone hurts you, it is a HUGE risk to stay with them - you know what they are capable of, so why wouldn't they do it again?
I think you should consider whether or not you could see something serious happening with this guy or if it's just a fling. Maybe agree to meet him for a date (dinner or whatever) and that way you can gauge whether or not he got dumped by the last girl and wants an easy rebound or if he's actually serious.0
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