My ex and I are trying to work things out (HE reached out to me btw)... we planned on hanging out on Sunday. Sunday comes around and I ask him what time he's free, he's like "helping my dad with a car". So I'm like ok maybe that means after I'm done with the car. At 7pm, I call him and ask whats going on, and he's like "oh I was in bed all day watching movies, I didn't feel like going out its raining", and I got really annoyed. I told him maybe we shouldn't talk anymore, and he's like "ok". Wtf? So i thought maybe he wanted to watch movies at his house, he didn't really say he doesn't want to hang out at all. So I asked him if I maybe overreacted? He ignored the friggin text. So, I kind of feel pissed off and upset.
Why is he acting this way? If you're not into me, then don't reach out to me at all! I was living my life without thinking about him, and he randomly msged me begging for me to talk to him, and when I actually make an effort to fix things, he does this. What is going on?
Most Helpful Guy
I think you did overreact suggesting not talking anymore. that's more of a threat than a method of communication.
as for this behavior... it sounds like he's wishy washy. I think it's fair to ask him why he didn't convey his feelings about hanging Sunday, but it needs to be done in a mature productive way rather than a sort of threat/ultimatum
perhaps just explain to him. we planned to hang out. but when I reached out to you, you were vague and left it completely open ended, which mean that I'm just sort of hanging by a string. what is up? did you really want to hang out? and if you didn't want to hang out why couldn't you communicate that to me rather than me having to chase you down?
or... and this is most likely what I would do... just not bother with him. he's not making an effort or being respectful of your time1
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Most Helpful Girl
I wouldn't accept that kind of behavior from a friend, much less an EX boyfriend.
If you're trying to work things out and it's already turning like this... I'd say there's nothing to work out. Whether he's playing with you or not, he doesn't seem to respect you.0