Ok.. so my ex and I were together for 4 years. We were each others first. She left me 2 years ago saying she wasn’t happy, got a new boyfriend within a month, and then two months later contacts me saying she’s sorry and wants to get back together. I love her so much so I accept. We try again. Fast forward to eight months ago and I do some stupid things but we decide to work it out. Then in September we had a fight and she decides she wants to break up. She had just told me the month before how she had a “gut feeling about us since the day we met”, that we would last forever. She then goes and starts dating another guy within a week. But after about 1 month and a half I contact her and we start talking again. We say that we love each other. Text from morning til night, kiss, everything. I call her my heart which I had never done before and she got all teary-eyed when I said it and said so herself that she was so moved. However I did say I wanted to take it slow so we don’t rush into things again. She agrees. I found out that she kept my love note that came with the flowers I sent her when we broke up recently in the box where she keeps the watch I bought for her last Christmas.
Anyway, 3 weeks after we start talking she does a complete 180 and says she wants to break up for good this time. I ask her how she could go from loving me and wanting to try again to wanting to break up. She doesn’t give me an answer.
2 weeks later I see her at an event holding hands with another guy. Not the same guy from 2 months ago. Breaks my heart.
We live in the same neighborhood a few days ago I see her and her family, then I also see this new guy with them. They see me and he sort of puts his hand around her shoulder. I walk the other way. I can’t believe that she went from breaking up with me to bringing a guy home to meet the family in less than 2 months.
How can she move on so quickly?
Most Helpful Girl
She was/is hurting and lonely after the break-up, naturally. When girls feel that way, they want a guy to comfort them. It's one of the easiest ways to get some new perspective. It doesn't mean she will never come back to you... but dating someone else in the meantime might give you a new perspective, too.0
Most Helpful Guy
You don't want to keep doing this yoyo relationship with her. Be done with it and don't think about her and her BF of the day. She would definatley divorce you if you ever got married because she always thinks the grass is greener. i dated someone like this in HS as we were off and on 3 times. The last time she came back but I simply said no. I really cared for her but it was a dead end and I had oats to sow.1