Okay. So it's New Years Eve, my boyfriend that I'm honestly in love with (though we haven't said those words yet) that I've been dating for about 3 or 4 months lives in new hampshire and I'm home in maryland on break. I was at a party at a friends house. And I got pretty wasted.
A guy friend of mine walked me home. On the way home he asked if he could kiss me and I said no. Told him I had a boyfriend. He said okay. We get to my house, still talking and he starts breaking down about being dumped by his 4 year gf three days ago. He also starts talking about his sever depression and how he is failing school and is starting to go to a counselor. It gets late and he's still venting so I tell him he should stay and there are plenty of free beds in my house.
He asks to sleep in the same bed. I say okay but he has to promise to keep everything to himself. Knowing that he feels bad about his gf and he's lonely i figured it would help him out. He puts his hand on my waist and I'm drunk so I pretend it's my bf cuz i'm missing him, so i dont tell him to move it.
We keep talking a lot. Then we fall asleep for an hour. Then he wakes me up and asks to fool around. I tell him no. He asks again, I say no again- still pretty tipsy. He starts giving me a back massage and i stop him a few minutes in. I sit up, we talk until morning and I chug a ton of water so we can walk back to the house where the party was so I get my car and he goes home.
No clothes, or under the clothes action happened at all. Just a lot of personal talking about our sex lives, and past relationships, and depression.
The next morning when i got home i was wracked with guilt and felt so bad about letting another guy touch my side and sleep in the same bed as me that I starting bawling and called my boyfriend and told him what happened. He said it was fine, and not to worry about it. We talked for 2 hours on the phone and skyped later that night. I'm still scared he'll leave.
Most Helpful Guy
You got away, but just about! Lucky you!
If you can't hold your drinks, be careful with whom you are. Something like this could end up in a rape charge someday. (Agreed he led you own and seems to have almost conned you, from your description!)
You did pretty well, if we go by your account, in being firm about your no. Where you didn't do well, I feel, was in not realising your alcohol limits. In taking him home. In not reading through his motives (most guys will see sex simply as a free meal!) and also in telling your bf. Sometimes knowing is more hurtful than the act itself.
Nextime, just be over-cautious. You're lucky nothing happened. If you had to charge him with rape (had it gone a little further), he could have spent many years behind bars.0
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Most Helpful Girl
I think it would fine, I wouldn't consider it cheating, you told him no even though you were drunk, and you admitted it to your boyfriend which probably made him happy that you trusted him enough to tell him0