Okay, this is a complicated one. We met, had an instant attraction and that's where things start getting complicated. She was living with her current boyfriend that she openly admitted she didn't love anymore. She still cared for him but not loved and was only living there as she had nowhere else to go. We kinda started seeing each other and I fell for her so fast and from what she said she loved me too... Messy as all hell so far huh?
Gets worse. I find out as we went along that she cheated on him prior to getting with me too, which I was kinda sketchy with but it was her past and I believe in taking people as I find them and not judging them on the past. I too have cheated in the past on a couple of girls. I'm not proud of it but I have changed and I would never do it again so I don't believe "once a cheat, always a cheat"!
That being said I was feeling insecure about the whole situation and wanted her for myself but it couldn't be so. I found out she was still saying she loved him and they still slept together (which I kinda understood as she was in a tough spot having nowhere to go). But she said I made her feel so bad about herself with the constant barrage of telling her she was hurting me by not ending things with him.
She then cheated on me (and him I guess) with some other guy on a night out and then later on in the week which I found out about. She said it was because i was making her feel shit for something she couldn't really control and this other guy made her feel good.
So, I dumped her, we end up back together but not officially. As it stands, she has moved out and finished with the now ex (although not everyone knows about it). her mother was asking if he was at hers the other night and my heart just died and she was saying she loves me so much and that he never came over which I'm trying to believe. She say's she's "Not ready" for another full relationship but wants and loves me.
Does she love me? What do I do?
Also, she is seeing a counsellor to deal with the issues she has, as she hasn't forgiven herself for the things she has done. Does the fact she has reacted in this way not mean she is trying to change for me/us?
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I think you might have just found yourself a Playerette... she's done everything right so far.
Use of the three words while "Loving" someone else
Using their sticky situation not to move forward with you
Already having two and still finding a third
Uses feelings as a shield while throwing the blame on you, using your own emotions
Gets out of their sticky situation and still won't move forward with you but leaves you on the hook as a contingency plan with those three little words again.
I like the fact that you consider her your girl... i should have added that to the list. but i think its connected to the last one. I don't see a complication here, I see an action. Get as far away as possible.1
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