I really need a guys opinion on what all this means. My boyfriend is in a really bad place right now. No job, money, education, house, car, license, insurance, bad health, overweight, depressed etc. It was like this when I started dating him but l fell in love and will stand by him. He's a "class clown" kinda guy so he seems happy, but is always complaining about how this is the worst his life has ever been and how depressed he is inside. But he always said that no matter what, he has me and I keep him going. His life hasn't gotten worse but it hasn't gotten better either. The last time I saw him was New Years Eve. As far as "us" we were fine and happy. But he was having one of his depressed days. It wasn't because of the whole "self reflection" of New Years though, he actually thinks the holiday is stupid lol. Then on Sunday morning out of nowhere he TEXTS me all in one message that he's having such a hard time with life and needs to be alone to find and better himself, hopes I understand and support him and that he's been thinking this for awhile. I basically ask him if he can break up with me in person and he responds with "I never said I was leaving you." He just needs space. I ask questions like "I thought I made it better? What changed? And I'll stand by you." He got mad and said the questions are pushing him away and I don't respect his decision and threatened to actually break up with me for real. I apologized and gave in. He said "I'm not leaving right now." and "I'll still be here." I ask if he HONESTLY plans on coming back to me. He said yes, and that he's just not in the mood for anyone even his friends (which made me feel better like it's not just me) and wants to be alone so he doesn't ruin the thing he has and wants (idk if he was talking about me) He changed his fb status to "its complicated" We haven't spoken in 2 days. I checked the dating website we met on and he's been online :( Im so lost! Guys please help!
Most Helpful Guy
Honestly we all have issues either it be financially, over weight, no job, and no car. But that's a bs excuse, I would not break up with someone I love, to find myself cause I'm depressed.
If he loves you he would put you first and knowig you would stay by his side, through all the hardships shows him you care about him. He's hiding something, no doubt.
Let him go, if you want and focus on you, who knows maybe you might not want him back and find somone better. He has no confidence, no goals, no ambition. All he has going for him is the XY chromosome haha.
So I would move on, if someone loved you he wouldn't let you like that.0
Most Helpful Girl
I will be honest and say that the fact he's been on the dating site is not good at all. If he wants space and doesn't feel like being even with his friends, then why is he on a dating site? I know this is hard but to me it seems a bit like he isn't leaving you right now because he has nobody else to go to right now. If I were you, I'd either confront him about the dating site and demand honesty, or then I'd just erase him from my life.0