Every semester, there's a bit of tension between my boyfriend & I in terms of how much time we spend together.
Today, for example, he came to work out with me. Which is fun & all, but he's so distracted he'll just walk away or make comments on a game running on the sports network.
I ask him if he wants to grab a quick coffee after, which he turns down as he 'really has to study'. Before getting out of the car, I asked him if the next time I'll see him is Saturday, which is when we play badminton with some friends, and he nodded yes. I text him an hour later, saying I don't see why he bothered giving me his school schedule (everyday from 10-4) if he's studying all the time after class anyway. He replied saying he's 'sorry he has school and other responsibilities that he HAS to do, and that he can't spend 24/7 with me'.
I just said it's just an of compatibility & I'll see him next week. He replied with '...' and I left it at that.
I'm so lost as to what to do. I take school seriously too, but not to the same degree as him. Would it be too dramatic to just tell him I'd like to talk and say how I feel?
When do you know that enough is enough, and you just can't take it anymore?
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This is my mindset. There has to be give and take in any relationship. To me school not women is the most important aspect of my life and evidently his. However, any person can make time for what they love. I love sports and I am also busy with school. Everyday I play basketball in the morning for an hour. If he is truly focused on school I think it would be positive for you to be understanding of his time. That being said if he has opportunities and he chooses other activities, you have to make the decision if you are willing to be with a guy who is that way. Most likely if he can't make time for you now, it will only get worse if you get married. I would weigh the pros and cons and decide if you are willing to be with this type of guy. I hope it works out for the best. Also don't let sex cloud your judgment. It appears that might be influencing you significantly.2