After i broke up with him he sent a text saying, please answer. he doesn't want to do this anymore. I'll be by your side no matter what. I can't handle not being with you. I love you.
I had to call cause he has the tendency to do stupid shit when he's upset like drinking excessively or taking pills to forget. I had to make sure he was okay, yes my decision still stands. It's over. But I don't know if he took the phone call as a makeup, because I sure as hell didn't. When I say goodbye, I mean it.
Do I just continue to ignore his messages today? What do I do?
Most Helpful Guy
By constantly going back to him because of his tendencies (aka his manipulating you through concerns), you're reenforcing his dependency on you.
You're not his guardian. Cut contact.1
Most Helpful Girl
Whoa hold on. You need to recognize right now that you are not responsible for his actions or checking up on him.
He is unstable and you are feeding his actions by continuing contact with him. Do not respond to him again. If he sends you a message that he's doing something harmful or dangerous, you contact the police to report it and have them check up on him.
Further you need to keep a log of his contact. While he may just be on the dramatic side, his behavior is a red flag for behavior that can spiral out of control. You need documentation of any escalating behavior if you need to seek help.1