Tonight I’d like to chat with you about an important issue in relationships. I’d love to hear your opinions, questions, and comments, so please feel free to share. (No questions are silly questions!)
I will start tonight’s #GAGExpertChat with this hot question "Should you be friends with an Ex"?
For the Poll please tell me "Would it bother you if the person you are dating were good friends with his/her Ex?"
- No, I would not mind at all.Vote A
- I might mind--depends on how long it has been since they dated.Vote B
- I might mind--depends on who broke up with who.Vote C
- This would probably bother me a little.Vote D
- This would definitely bother me a lot.Vote E
Most Helpful Guy
I'm lawyer, and my license is suspended. (short version: i didn't do anything wrong, and i'm happier this way, for now) Guys always ask me for advice when they are getting divorced. Since I can't represent them, my primary concern is to try and ensure the safety of everyone involved. I know these guys are hurting, so I give them an honest explanation of the law and appraisal of their situation. Then I show them how to document everything their attorney will need to start building a case as well as how to protect themselves and their identities, and I tell them to retain counsel as quickly as possible. Then the questions get really uncomfortable: "Are you 100% sure the kids are yours?" "Look me in the face and tell me if you've had thoughts about hurting yourself." etc. I've never been through what these guys are going through. I've lost a girl, and I thought the world was coming to an end, but I never felt the way these guys talk. It's like they don't believe they are human anymore. I think giving them the work to do building the case helps them, and I tell them they can call me if they need to talk, but after that I don't know what to say. Is losing the position of husband and father so fundamentally different from losing a girl? How do you relate to people who are at rock bottom when you've never been there? Is there something they need that I just don't understand? What should I say when they admit that they've suicidal thoughts, but insist that they're ok now?1