My ex and I were in a long distance relationship for over a year. However, over the summer he broke up with me because he met another girl... I was really hurt because we talked about being together and getting married.
I don't know if he's still with this other girl because I didn't talk to him after the break up. We did once, but I was too bitter at him and told him to leave me alone.
Over the holidays, he sent me some messages wishing me well. And the other day when I had some car trouble I ended up messaging him because I was freaked out and he messaged me and chatted until the tow truck came.
Is he doing this because of guilt for hurting me? Or does he still care about me?
When will be the right time to ask him about how he feels for me? Like to repair or just break off the relationship? I'm just really confused
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Love is without boundaries, nor rules, nor conditions. It can exist without a relationship, without anything at all.
Love means to wish the person you love well, that they receive happiness one day, if not everyday, that they live in good health, and are able to grow and learn and become awesome.
Love is not jealous, or unkind, or impatient, or selfish. Love cares without reason.
However, do not confuse love with relationship. Do not confuse love with romance.
If we talked about such things as walls of a house, we have the bricks, the cement, and the overall design/architecture of the house.
The bricks are like rules, rigid, firm, not to be moved, if you lay bricks alone without cement, the bricks can be toppled easily and the wall falls.
The cement is trust, it takes time to lay it out, and you need to lay bricks to make the cement effective. If the cement is not yet dried and you attempt to put a load on it (e. g., going overseas for an LDR), or test it (e. g. fighting, not talking with each other, and going out with friends), the floor can fall through. If you do not have bricks to strengthen it, the cement can take any shape and be flexible, but has no strength to take heavy loads (letting each other meet other people of the opposite sex for work, etc and not saying what is no accepted, e. g. close body contact, letting them hug you unnecessarily).
But that is just a house, and all relationships are like houses, for different purposes.
But love is the air. It is air that can be present even without a house, if it is good air, you can live and be comfortable, it lets you breath.
However, love is not bound by rules, it works with rules. It makes a relationship beautiful, but it can exist without a relationship.
There is no relationship here, but there is probably love. He still cares for you, but he probably doesn't picture a relationship with you.
There isn't a house built to house your projects. But its a pretty nice place to be.1