My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 years now. It was super fun for the first like 6 months. Then ever since then we've on and off fought over stupid stuff to really serious problems. Some have gotten solved, but some stay the same. The big problems come from both of us. There have definitely been really fun times, too. We both also feel really comfortable with each other. It's been 2 years so we know a lot about each other and we share the same political and religious views, and we have a lot of the same interests. And we have the same ideas about like kids and raising them and stuff (we're too young to actually be doing that though). My problem is I have been on and off thinking about if I want to stay with him or not. I mean sure we're comfortable and there are happy times, but I'm bored and he seems bored, but I know he has no desire to end things at all. The times we got close he was just devastated. I was sad, too.. but.. I don't know. I'm really unsure. He also has big depression and social anxiety problems that he doesn't deal with (hasn't ever sought out help). And I have tried helping, but there isn't much I can do. So it's tiring being with him sometimes... And I just wonder if I might have fun with someone else. But then again me and him like.. work together so well in how similar we are. And I love him and he /really/ loves me. What would you do in my situation?
this is his very first relationship, while I've had 2 before him.
- Break upVote A
- Stay togetherVote B
Most Helpful Guy
What have you done to help him with his depression and anxiety? What makes you think you didn't help or you can't do more?
Also, how does this effect your relationship? Does he want to feel better? Is he taking any steps in feeling better?
I think it may help you if you can up the level of communication with him so you can talk about what you miss, or which fun times you want more of. Likewise it may help him understand how his difficulties effect you.0
Most Helpful Girl
It sounds like you're staying for his sake and not because you really want to be with him. Otherwise you wouldn't be asking this question to begin with. But it doesn't sound like you're doing him a favour by staying since you're both fighting and not sorting your problems through/work to make your relationship better. Either way it can't stay the way it is now. Break up or work your problems out. Only you can know what to do0