We only had 2-3 20 minute calls per week, only on her terms. I asked her to talk to me on her nights off, but she kept saying she was too tired. Eventually, on 11/26/14, I sent her a letter stating that we were falling out of touch, and that it was having an impact on our relationship.
On Christmas day, instead of calling, she sent me a text; I called her back and we spoke for about 15 minutes about our gifts and what a wonderful Christmas we were having.
I tried to spend New Year's Eve with her, but she texted me around 4 am saying she had slept through it and she was sorry for missing it. I was becoming perturbed with texting taking the place of calls.
On 5 January 2015, I received an accidental text from her asking when we were going to the restaurant I took her to on our first date; she immediately sent a text stating it was meant for her Sister. She sent another text asking if I'd be home that night. I responded, "I'm not up for talking tonight. I need a week or so to think about us, where we lost it, and whether I want to stick around. Enjoy [the restaurant] and have a sangria for me." The next day she responded, "I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner but I was mad. I understand your decision even though it upsets me. I love you." I responded, "I love you too."
I told her this Monday I was tired of fighting. On Tuesday, she responded, "I'm hurting and I don't know if I can do this anymore." I asked what she meant but she would not say. I tried to call her, but she said, "I'm sorry, I can't." I told her I love her, and she said she loves me too and said "I need some time." The last thing I heard from her was "I need some time to think. Please respect that."
I'm going to give her all the time she needs and leave her alone.
Our relationship was getting way too complicated and not fun, and the most honest, loving thing I can do is respect her wishes.