So I was mad and told her I think we should split up. DIDN'T MEAN IT AT ALL. But since I have been the one begging and writing letters to confess my true love. We have been together almost 3 years. I cheated and lied and was just scared of long-term because I knew she was the one. It just scared the shit out of me. But as I stated I was the one begging to get her back. She said she was to confused and hurt and angry. We did not break up due to the cheating we had worked through that. This was mainly an attention freak out. I wanted to see her and shit kept getting in the way. So I was angry and said some things I didn't MEAN. But now she just doesn't know what she wants. So I did no contact. This is day 2. Anyone thoughts on who should contact who first. Valentine's day is coming up. Should I just stand my ground? she knows how I feel and she knows I want this. So it was nothing more I could do then to give her complete space. Because I didn't wanna accept friendship which I had did initially. But I'm just in love with her. Don't think me being her friend would be smart.
Most Helpful Girl
Should you “stand your ground”? No, you should leave her the f*ck alone. You’re the dumper. You screwed her over. You stabbed her in the back. You betrayed her trust and then you verbally dismissed her because you were “scared” -_- Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean sh*t: for some crappy partners like you, it’s your one day to make up for being mediocre and/or painfully disappointing on other days.
Once you cheat, there is no going back. You are cementing a permanent downfall of the bond. Cheating is betrayal and your partner will never be able to look at you with the same admiration and pride nor will they ever fully be able to trust that you won’t hurt them for your own disgusting gratification. So with that said, I think you need to leave her alone, let her move on with her life, and let her find someone who is going to take better care of her heart. You messed up and you do not deserve her. Leave her alone. Stop disrupting her healing process. Stop making her revisit painful memories because you selfishly can’t help but open your mouth and try to pry your presence into her life. LET HER GO. Leave her be so she can have a better man in her life.1
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Most Helpful Guy
well if anything, at least drop off a gift on her doorstep but other than that i think you should give her some time to think.0