1) We dated for 4 months, got to know each other over the course of a year
2) We're teens (under 18)
3) His reason for dumping me was that he just wasn't ready for a relationship, but he said that we could still be friends
4) He seemed VERY INTO ME until one week prior to the break up, when he was a little less physically affectionate and didn't see me quite as often (but that could be because of parental intervention--see 9).
5) Up until MINUTES before the break up he texted me ALL throughout the day (as he always did after we started dating) asking about my opinions, interests, what I was up to, giving me updates about his life, saying good night, etc.
6) I was recovering from surgery... so maybe he just texted all the time because he felt bad for me? We discussed many other things beyond how I was recovering though
7) He bought me flowers about a week before the break up due to my injury
8) He always kept up with doing me little favors/being a gentleman
9) One of his parents (who he is VERY close to/who he allows to control nearly his ENTIRE life) made it clear they did not like him dating. They wouldn't allow us to be completely alone together.
10) He is very passive (conflict avoider) and aims to please his parents first and foremost
11) I was his first gf. As far as I know he hasn't dated in the months since.
12) I said I couldn't be friends for a while because I didn't trust him. He sent the last text saying he was sorry, and neither one of us has initiated contact since.
13) After, he didn't help me with my injury, but acted like a polite stranger up until last month. Now, he acts like I don't exist.
14) I've actively avoided him, making sure he was uninvited from a gathering of mutual friends.
15) When people ask his best friend what happened, he says it just "kind of faded"/"ran its course"
Why do you think he broke up with me? Did he lose attraction? Did his parent make him (is he embarrassed to say so)? Was he just not ready?
- Lost feelings/got boredVote A
- Not readyVote B
- Parent made him end itVote C
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From where I am sitting, without it being etched in stone here, dear, He was every bit Into you, being attentive, a Gentleman, sharing things with you, even buying flowers to boot for you. However, something went South and when I read One of his parents... and aims to please his parents first and foremost, I knew it was This writing on the wall that tells me All------Parental intervention.
I believe he was raring and ready and wanted this Real Relationship, but there were too many hands inside the cookie jar that leaves this sour ball in my mouth. And with him wanting you both to be friends and you not wanting to be because of trust issues, this is the straw that may have broke the camel's back once in for all... not even 'Didn't help with my injury...'He had too much on his plate with all of this and his excuse for "Kind of faded" was all he could cough up.
His parents interfering and along with religious beliefs, I also Contribute this to you both not having a shot for a chance for a real romance... I am wondering as he gets older, just how much he will put up with his family affair and if anyone has a Shot with him in his life one day or if it will end up a Shot in the dark with no place to go.
Move on, Marina5... you deserve better than to have all birds of a feather who could never flock together.
Good luck. xx0