6 months ago my brother in law left my sister and moved out. She was stuck taking care of their 6 year old boy by herself. After about a month she got so overwhelmed and she went off the deep end and started spending copius amounts of money, going to bars and hooking up with random guys all in an effort to make herself feel better. She moved out of the house and let her husband move back in to take care of their son. Through Facebook she found out that her husband had a girlfriend and they had been together for over a year. Which means he was screwing his mistress 10 months before he left my sister. He filed for divorce and because of my sister' s breakdown, she lost her job, got a dui, and was involuutary put in a mental institution for a few days. She is bipolar. Now my sister has no money, no job, no friends and living with our parents. She also only gets to see her son on the weekends. My brother in law is having the time of his life and just got back from the Bahamas where he took his mistress. Plus his son told us that his daddy wants to him to call his mistress "mommy". I HATE him and his slut and I can't get over it. My sister is devastated and my brother in law is living it up and moved on. In my head I come up with ways I could hurt him and his whore and fantasized on ways to make them as miserable as they have made my sister. I know who his mistress is and where she works so I could realistically do something to her but don't want to make things worse for my sister in the on going divorce. So how can I get over the anger I feel?
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A lot of these 'cheating male' stories sound horrid. The guy comes across as illogical and thoughtless. As a kid, I felt the same way about my dad...
On growing up, I know better and see the other side of the story.
It's usually something like this (ask just about any guy):
1. Girl falls for guy.
2. Gives him great sex, she can't seem to have enough.
3. He falls for her, is willing to sacrifice and do what she wants.
4. They get into a relationship, or marry.
5. They have kids (which accelerates the crisis).
6. She loses interest in sex.
7. The sex tap dries up.
8. He finds it elsewhere.
I think sex is a crucial part of a relationship/marriage, but many are not willing to acknowledge this. This is where most of the problems start, when the wife/girlfriend starts to think she's caught a guy, and is not obliged to bother too much about sex.
(Actually, she can't help it. Because women are also made that way and tend to lose their interest in a long-term partner. Some very good explanations of the two-year-itch and women!)0