My ex whom I still love, I still can't seem to stop thinking about. We ended on her terms and it was a graceful breakup. She wanted to be friends but i said I wasn't sure right now due to still loving her. So I said she can contact me when ever she likes because she wanted to keep in contact. I think it has a lot to do with missing having that special person as a partner and being in a relationship. Single life just isn't that great in comparison. It's only been a few weeks and I haven't been annoying her and haven't spoken in over a week. I just want to get on with my life stop obsessing over her and thinking of the worst that's she may be talking to someone new. I know it's early days but there must be better ways to cope. I don't expect to get over her anytime soon and who knows what the future holds we may be brought back together. But for now I just want the paranoid thoughts to subside. I'm starting to try talk to new girls to help get my mind off her but that seems to remind me if I don't get a response from them. any advice is greatly appreciated thank you!
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Like you say, it's still early days so you shouldn't be too hard on yourself for still thinking about her. But then again, I totally understand that you want the paranoid thoughts gone. I think that not talking to her is a step in the right direction. Being friends with an ex can only happen once you're entirely over them (and at that point you generally no longer have an interest in being friends with them). I've tried being friends with an ex immediately after the break-up and it was very hard to move on and it took me ages. Cut all contact. Don't look her up on social media, and try to avoid places where you're likely to bump into her.
Try to keep busy, be it with friends or with some hobby. I'm not sure if I'd recommend talking to other girls because 1. you're obviously not ready for something new and 2. as you say, it makes you feel down all over again when they don't respond. I just don't think it's good for you to put your happiness into other people's hands just yet.0
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