What is the quickest way to let go and move on after you've been dumped?
It's been a little over a month since i was dumped by a girl i really liked, and although i'm trying to let go, i'm finding it incredibly difficult.
Days will go by when i won't be thinking about it and life is great, then all of a sudden, i'm in bed and thinking about where things went wrong (which was all my fault, btw) and i am quickly finding my mood change. I keep saying to myself, "let go" and even take in 10 deep breaths with the goal of "letting go" on the last one.
I've even written a letter to her, that I will never read give to her, saying all that is on my mind about the whole thing. I'm trying to feel the pain, but something is blocking it, and all this stuff in the attempt to let her go so i can move on to better pastures and meet someone better. But it ain't working, i'm still thinking of her from time to time. I'm still watching to see if she is stalking me on Facebook... I'm still waiting for her to reach out to me so i can ask her out again. Which i want to stop, otherwise it will never happen.
How can i let go? What are ways that you have implementing in helping you let go of relationships that didn't work out?
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I can totally relate. I broke up a month ago as well (over the course of like three months), and it's been hell trying to work through it. I didn't want to let go at first, but then I realized I had no other choice. If you really want to move on, you have to cut all communication. No texting, no calls, no social media. In fact, it's best if you block/unfriend/remove her from all of your digital communication. Delete her number from your phone. Delete any messages or emails from her that you've saved. Trust me, I know how hard it is and I know it seems impossible, but it is the best thing. Total no contact. And if she tries to contact you, don't respond, at least not until you've given yourself time to heal. Don't worry about what she's doing. If she wants to come back, she will, but in the meantime, you have to focus on yourself. Try to be busy with friends, school, work, hobbies or whatever. Do something you've always thought about doing. Also it takes two to break up, so I'm sure it's not entirely your fault, unless you like cheated or something. She had faults too, and you have to focus on those instead of the good times. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you made in the relationship, and learn from them. Writing the letter was good, I did that too, now go rip it into pieces or burn it. It's a physical symbol of letting go. As for the nights, all I can do is acknowledge and accept what I'm feeling. But that's when I'm glad I cut/blocked all communication with him. I can't send him any sad desperate texts that would end up making me look foolish. Desperate is never attractive. Instead I text a friend or I write it out. I think trying to accept things as they are than trying to force yourself to move past them is more productive. Just know that if she wanted to talk to you, she would. Don't wait for her to come back. And yes, it will take time. The first few weeks of no contact are really terrible, but it does get easier. Good luck! tl;dr No Contact, do stuff0