I (22yrs) was dating this guy (25yrs old) for 6 months. He broke up with me over the weekend over the phone, even though he lives 10 mins away and passes where i live every time he goes to work. Since it was over the phone it was hard to hear him because he was mumbling and hard to talk for long. He said that he wanted to break up because the novelty wore off, but i still dont know what that means. He seemed a little upset and offered to remain friends. Since I was kind of blind sided by the breakup, I wasn't sure what else to ask. Then as the past few days went on there were three questions i wanted to ask him to get some closure. So the other day I texted him to see if we could just talk for a little bit because i just wanted to ask him something for closure. He never responded. Then at night, he was on Facebook, so I messaged him again. He said that he did not want to talk about the break up. I said i understood but I would really appreciate it because I just want some closure and would help me move on. He read it but did not respond. Then after awhile, I sent him another message saying I understand if he doesn't want to talk about the breakup but if he could give me a reason. He said he doesn't want to go through it again. He wants to not focus on the past and to look forward. His opinion might change but thats how he feels. Then i asked if he wanted to remain friends, since he wants to look forward. He said it was up to me. Then i just repeated that if i meant anything to him that if he ever wants to talk about the break up i would really appreciate it to get some closure. He's been on fb chat but didn't read it. What should I do? I dont want to bother him but I just really want some closure. Do you why he would be acting this way? I get that we are not together, but he used to be really nice. With all my exes they either allow me a chance to ask questions for closure or I allow my exes a chance to ask me questions for closure.
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After I read the part about how he broke up with you I already had an opinion before reading the rest. He did not want to face you because he feels REALLY guilty about something. He did something really wrong, like maybe cheating. Move on. He's not going to give you ammo to use against him and ruin his chances with other girls. This guy is being shady, selfish, and doesn't deserve you in any way, not even as a friend.
The "novelty" part refers to the "honeymoon phase" of every relationship. When a relationship is new, you're too happy and excited by the new love to really see the person for who they are. It usually lasts 2 weeks to a month, and then the relationship is really beginning. This is when you actually decide if you want them long term, or realize they're not right for you, and end it. That's why I really think he cheated on you.1
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