Hello. I need some opinions even though I think I know what the most of you say. To make a long story short I began having an affair with a married high school friend that I haven't seen in 26 years. We would meet once a week. One day after "hanging out together" he called and said his wife found all the text messages and everything was out in the opening. After a few days he called and said he wanted to work on his marriage for the kids (always the kids). I said okay even though it hurt and non thinking about him non-stop. Only about 4 days later he called and said he misses me and wants to talk. I had a 10 minute conversation with him and he said he can't leave his wife but he does have feelings for me. Once again I said "OK". The emails are now coming in and he wants to meet for a real goodbye. I don't want to but I have the desire to. I know I should let it go but its so freakin' hard. Has anyone else there in a similar situation? I don't need to be bashed on here. Just need some advice about moving on.
Most Helpful Guy
You are in the wrong for ever intruding on his marriage in the first place. I am not going to attempt to negate his wrongfulness in this matter because there is enough blame to be shared between the two of you. Are you aware tat your actions can partially be the reason for his entire family life to be destroyed? And let's say he does leave his wife for you. Since he has already proven that he cannot even be loyal to his own wife, What in the hell makes you somehow think that he will be true to you? You clearly are not thinking on this one. This is a situation you should have avoided from the word go. Married = off limits.0
Most Helpful Girl
This is where you need to see the situation for what it is. He won't leave his wife, he doesn't respect or value either of you. He is a pathetic, decietful bastard and you didn't respect his marriage. Start making better choices and start right now, don't talk to him, don't meet up for a "goodbye" sex session, be a better person than you have been.1
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