It doesn't even make any sense how much I hate her after this long.
how do you forgive people?
Most Helpful Girl
It's hard to do. It depends on how long you were together and how serious it was too. Obviously if you say it no longer makes sense I am guessing it was a long time and you were serious enough.
I had someone I hated for years, not the same reason but I was angry for a long time. I eventually learned that the hate was just eating at me. This person did not even know I hated them. You can forgive and not forget. It's still hard to do but things can become easier.1
Most Helpful Guy
You just have to learn how to let go, my friend.
Holding onto such bitterness is bad for your health. It causes stress on you, which can cause weight loss/gain, and decrease the quality of your sleep if not out right cause you to lose sleep. Anger is bad for your gastro-international tract and your immune system.
Personally, I meditate, which I recommend looking into.1