- He's just depressed and trying to cope- he does love you he just can't feel it right now
- He's an asshole
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As someone with very bad depression myself I can attest that he sounds like a classic case. Also he is not manipulating you like the person below states, they have obviously never had depression and do not understand it. That is exactly how depression works you have no control over the on and off switches for happy and sad. We push people away to protect them or ourselves. We dont answer because of that and because we may not be able to focus on anything including noticing that we have messages. I loved my one ex but my depression drove her away. I hated the idea and was so annoyed at texting her at times i just wanted to be alone. But her voice always made me happy even if I was still sad I was happy to hear it.
You have a big choice to make here if you love him enough to learn to deal with this. Chances are even if he gets better it will strike again down the road. If you stay you just have to learn to and this sounds terrible but ignore his moods and his emotions. Just pretend to be there for him and know that he loves you even if it doesn't seem like it. You have to learn whats him and whats the depression and not get mad at him for the depressions actions. Think of them like 2 separate people in one body. But also be there for him and comfort him. Drive him and motivate him. Try your best to not let him dwell but understand every now and then he will need a little alone time to dwell and recharge. Compliment him often. If you can do all that call him and tell him that. Tell him you are not going to walk away and leave him alone. That his depression is not the same as him and that its him you love. Tell him all the things you love about him and that you will not walk away and give up on him. That you beleave in him. Than tell him that daily. If not stop text him sorry tell him its ok that he is depressed and that you still care but you can not talk to him for his own health. Then walk away and never text again. Making it a "on and off" thing will only3