I'm cutting out someone who has been rather toxic to my happiness lately. We used to have a good thing going but it got really complicated and awful and I've had enough of being dragged around emotionally. I'm leaving, I'm telling him that we aren't hooking up anymore because he's hurt me too many times and I'm done. How do I make him see what he lost?
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Just leave the situation if it's bad. Only worry about you, don't worry about whether he feels bad about it afterwards or not. Only reason to do that is to lead him to come back to you, and it sounds like that's not what's best for you. So it doesn't matter if he's learned anything from it if you make a clean break. If you're trying to teach him a lesson to try to "fix" him and rekindle the relationship, that's a different approach, and it would be playing games to leave with the intent of him regretting it and chasing after you. Decide if you're done or not, then go ahead and be done, or not. If you're not done, let him know your issues with his behavior and tell him you're almost done. But you have to decisively pick your approach, you can't walk in the middle of the road.0