Can I really be THAT bad!
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I disagree with the whole Einstein saying that if you're doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results, that's the definition of "insanity", IN THIS CONTEXT.
That's a great saying, but dating and romantic relationships seem to be different beasts in and of themselves from most other things.
It's more luck-based, in that you just have to keep going through an indefinite number of minor or major heartbreaks to find the one that you are meant for.
People and relationships are like snowflakes. No two are the same. That's why it's a mistake to try to conform to "dating ideals", or start making significant changes to yourself THAT YOU OTHERWISE WOULDN'T MAKE in attempt to improve your chances. Self-improve, but don't try to act like the perfect "dater" if you know what I mean.
For example, for one couple what's considered clingy may be considered too distant for another.
Some couples are married within a year; others aren't even romantically exclusive by that mark.
Some say, "I love you," very soon and it's all reciprocated and good; others are very cautious about that phrase.
To some, religion is very important: for others, it's a non-issue.
Preferences in physical traits vary as well, as well as preferences in bed, and really, preferences in general vary.
All you're trying to do is find the one with whom you're compatible in all necessary ways and/or can work with to be compatible.
For some, it's a long journey to find the one. Others marry their high school significant other.
I'd say: keep improving yourself IN WAYS YOU WANT TO (become the person you want to be and dream of being) and use the lessons you learn from each failed experience (and these lessons vary for different people which is why you can't really learn this stuff out of a book) in order to increase your odds of finding the one you'll spend the rest of your life with sooner.1