I came home weds after work to all of my fiances things Gone and his key on the table! I have 3 kids and he didn't have any! I realized a couple months ago that he was unsure about going forward with the wedding! Yet he kept me in limbo for awhile! I finally told him Wednesday on my lunch that I needed him to decide because I can't keep doing this to myself and my kids! Well I guess ignoring me the rest of the day and moving his stuff out without telling me was his answer! Didn't even have decency to say goodbye to me or my 3 that were completely attached to him! How can someone walk away from 4 people he supposedly loved and was going to spend his life with without even saying goodbye? I don't get it! Feels pretty heartless!
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I can only imagine how much you are hurting. Maybe this is a chance to let him know how much he is losing by leaving you? I have read a lot about the no contact and improving yourself after a break up, your situation seems to be one that this would work. Give him a chance to miss you. Get yourself busy and boost your ego by doing something for you. Don't reach out to him, don't text him, don't call him, stop all communication. From what I have read this is key to making sure he doesn't see you as needy or clingy or a "given". He has to miss you. Evaluate yourself, what has changed since you have been together? Did you stop going out or dressing up? Did you stop doing things for you, and everything was for him? Well this is your time to start going back to the person who was confident and strong before he met you, the person who he was first attracted to. It has been three years so you need time to regroup and find yourself again.
See this as a challenge because you can't get him back by throwing yourself at him, he already had you and left. To not hear from you will really make him wonder what has happened. After a week he will begin to be curious After two he will probably start to panic. By week four you will probably receive some kind of text or call. By then you will have broken out of the addicted to seeing him phase if you really didn't contact him at all and it will be easier for you to be the real you, the strong you when deciding how to proceed.0