This girl was married for 11 years after she divorced her husband we became friends and eventually fell in love. I was the best boyfriend she ever had her husband and all her boyfriends she ever had hit her and cheated on her a lot. 6 months into our relationship she was forced to move away because she lost custody of her kids to her mother because she couldn't support them and neither could I so she moved and after 6 months of living there she left me for a 19 year old (she was 28 I was 24) she was suppose to live there for awhile and then move back after saving some money or I finished college I told her he only wanted in her pants but she got with him anyway I was crushed and as I predicted he is a jerk too, he has cheated 3 times, once while she was In the hospital and I was there visiting her he never went once he spent the time away from her hanging out with this other girl who he cheated with. I asked for her back when she called me crying about it but she refused and went back to him after she got out and told me we couldn't be friends anymore after all I did for her, I did so much for her to much stuff for me to list.
She is still with this jerk and says we can't be friends but she refuses to give me back my promise ring I gave her, why? she wants nothing to do with me so why does she want it (it has our names on it) and I have done so much for her givin her money to pay her bills I bought her a car so she could visit her kids ( she is a high school drop out and has never had any money) I have always had her back why did she betray me for this prick and why won't she leave him when he treats her so bad and I treat her so well. she won't talk to me out of respect for him she says she can't talk to her ex because he doesn't like it but he talks to all these other girls. I can't seem to move on I love her and can't forget her or let her go. her life would be so much better with me and she has done nothing but struggle since she left me but she swears she's ok
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At this point and time, it's no longer about what you did for her and why and when you did them, or what he did for her and when he did them. It's simply about what she wants, or should I say, who she wants to be with. She, unfortunately, wants to be with him.
I know, I know, you feel betrayed. And I empathize with you. You've largely invested in her. And now for that, you feel somewhat entitled to be with her, to be in her life, to get the returns you believe are due to you. And thus, your pain over losing her, in that way, to that guy, of all people, seem fourfold.
Therefor, to expedite your recovery time, I suggest you realize what your ex realized a while back. You and her, together, are incompatible at this time. And as hurtful as it is, you're better off without her. You want different things and have opposite needs. That's reality.
If you put aside your feelings for her, I think you'll agree with me.
Besides, you cannot save someone who does not want to be saved. Give yourself time to grieve, but my all means move on.
She does want you0
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