I know this may sound incredibly dumb but HEY its my life and I AM getting help. Anyhow My ex boyfriend & I have been hanging out & having sex, though I do talk to another guy but he has no idea. My ex has broken my heart, torn me down and cheated on me in the past (2 years ago) but I feel like I'll nexer feel the way I feel when Im with him with any other man (DEEP in LOVE) the good & the bad. But last night he was emotionally abusive, told me horrible things, like I'm a headcase, I'm slow, etc THAN he says he needs his "sexual desires" satistified & has fantasies I'm like WTF. He said I satisfity him but he wants to hv me dress in lingere & role play which makes ME feel he wants someone else not ME for real, it'd be going great for us these past few weeks till last night. He also said I was spoiled bc I didn't want to go to a concert on the bus & we are from TOTTALLY diff worlds we were together for like 7 years off and on, his parents didn't raise him & he's always struggled even now on his own away from the foster care system,& mine are STILL married & I NEVER wanted for anything, he says I'm spoiled & resents me. We have SO much in common, & have fun together & are really connected but I'm torn. What do you think?
Most Helpful Guy
I just don't understand women who would put up with any guy that has cheated on him in the past or was abusive in any way.
There has to be other options... why would you even consider it. You may be in love with him, but if he cheats... he was never in love with you?2
Most Helpful Girl
This all comes down to self respect. You know how he makes you feel and you know that it is bad for you, but you are drawn to him and can't explain why.
What you need to do is understand what is best for you and feels right in the long run--which you know, deep down, is living a life without him. You need to understand that you will go through a period of pain when you stop seeing him, but that you have to do it for yourself. Really, if you are willing to love yourself enough, you will end it and go through that withdrawal period. Remember "the best way out is always through"1