I backed off, now he's back in my life, nicer then ever! confused!

A met a gorgeous guy in the summer, we were flirting and meeting up for 2 months, we both liked each other very much. I went on holiday for 2 weeks, we spoke for a week ,then I heard nothing from him, finally we spoke and he said he likes me but feels guilty turns out he had a girlfriend, I said I would back off he said it is what he wants, a month as gone by we exchanged a few texts just friendly ones, maybe one a week. anyway since Friday he contacted me via text we both had been drinking and the texts got very flirty, then he said I should forget about what he's said it was nothing! I just replied I get ya! since then he as texted me everyday asking questions telling me what he's up to etc being a little flirty but I've been ignoring is attempts to corrupt me, I don't know what he wants is he just bored, does he like me, or just being friendly.


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  • He finds you attractive because you are maintaining tension by being resistant to what he is wanting. My advice is to tell him bluntly how you feel. If you like him, keep in mind he already was emotionally flirting with you while in a relationship - what means he won't do it to you with another woman?

    I hope everything is sorted out soon. If I can clarify anything at all, let me know~



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  • Sounds like he wants to flirt with you and possibly do more with no strings attached. I would stop talking to him. a. you didn't know he had a girlfriend to begin with so he probably doesn';t have a problem with that sort of sneaking around and b. he told you to forget about things. People say actions speak louder than words...well in this case if the guy who is coupled up is telling you he is uninterested and continually flirting, it is nothing more then a boost for his ego. Ditch him.

    • I agree with rachi123, it's not worth the time that you spending here questioning his actions. You can have your own man and deal with own drama rather than get mixed up in this situation and share someone else's drama. He has a girlfriend, enough said... keep it movin! Peace & Love!

    • I totally agree with her, she's right he just wants to play both sides but in this case you've got him right where you need it to be in order to let it go before someone gets hurt. best of luck

  • your story sounds so famailar, probably cause same sh*t happened to me this summer. I still talk to the guy, he does have his girlfriend still; and I'm suppose to see him this weekend. The people can tell you not to waste your time, but.. if you feel for someone, its hard to ignore them right? just be straight with him and all you can really do is take his word, its all about trust from this point. he may actually like you which is why he came back.