Long story short, my ex boyfriend broke up with me about 2 months ago. We didn't date very long but long enough for me to get attached fast. He was an excellent sweet talker and I fell for his illusion. I thought I was over him but I'm not. But the way he broke up with me leaves me pained and in the dark. We were fine up until one moment when I didn't give into what he wanted (I won't go into detail here but I'm sure you guys will understand.) But after I said no, he just vanished. Not a word since. Not even a break up text. Nothing. I've been wanting to text him for closure but it's been 2 months. And he'd probably think I'm pathetic. Am I not even worthy of at least a Break up text? Even that is low. I don't know what to do. I know he probably won't reply or has me blocked or if I texted him, he'd block me, I don't know.
We have known each other for years, even were friends before our relationship so that's what makes it difficult for me to forget and move on. It's hard to accept he's out of my life for good now even though I know it's probably for the best. I do know he's already on dating sites so maybe he needs constant attention and I do know he always had/has to have a girlfriend. I've blocked all communication social wise so I won't see what he's up to. But it's still difficult for me to move on. I don't know to text him or not :( I'm little experienced with relationships as well, so this has hit me way harder than him. I'm the last thing on his mind, since he basically dumped me. So yeah if anyone has any opinions on what I should do, I'd greatly appreciate it. Thank you.
Most Helpful Guy
Well to start with you are right , it is for the best. What he did to you is about as low a thing as I have heard so far ; and as you can tell I've been round long enough to see quite a bit. I can understand that by his just pulling his Hudini disappearing act it leaves a lot unanswered questions , that is only fair they receive some explaination. But in all honestly he wouldn't give you those answers because he knows it is eating at you that you don't know. I know he was your friend before the relationship and breakup , and I don't mean to be cruel or anything but he is a douch bag player. And when he didn't get what you couldn't say , he decided he couldn't put a mark beside his conquest and decided the work required was more than he was ready to put forth. Finding better than him shouldn't be any problem for you because his kind are a dime a dozen and the supply of them will never run out. Should you text him? No I don't think you should or it will feed his ego. What I mean by that is he will know how his walking out is getting you. His not hearing from you in my opinion is putting that fire under his ars where it belongs.3
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Most Helpful Girl
I was in a very very similar situation to you although I don't know what went wrong. It took me a long time to realise that if they are so easily willing to disapear then they weren't genuine to begin with so mark then straight out as a player. Anyone who can't even give an answer isn't worth time being wasted. I however wanted answers especially because I had no idea what was going on and he would pick and choose when to talk to me after that night. I did send a few messages in hopes of getting closure and even told him that I just wanted closure to put my mind at ease.. He never gave it to me. I say spare your dignity and just mark him as a player. Once your feelings dissipate you'll look at it in a different light and you'll be able to pin point his actions and get closure for yourself. Stick it out as hard as it is you'll be okay. Distract yourself for awhile0