My ex asked me to call him after no contact?

[Anonymous]

We had no contact for over a month, he is seeing someone new. for the past 4 1/2 months, We broke up 5 months ago. He sent me an e-mail saying he missed our friendship, and that if I ever wanted to chat, he would be up for that. He wrote this early on a monday morning, first minute he arrived at work. I translate that into him asking me to call him but asked in a way as though he is doing me a favor, I haven't called him, but I did send a reply saying I was free for a chat any time. (about a week later)

He also slipped into the e-mail a hurtful insult, reminding me of the 3 months I was depressed and avoiding his family. (We were together for 7 years, and that's all he remembers) He said "I was a good friend but rubbish at talking to his friends and family"

I've apologized 100 fold for that.

What does he want from me?

Was it silly of me to have said he can ring any time? Because it's been 2 weeks now and I've not go so much as a text message from him.

Is he just f***ing with me?

Does he miss me? But still too p*ssed about my behavior during my three month depression?

Is he getting back at me for ignoring his e-mail for a week before replying?

All I'm doing now is getting on with my life but wondering why in the hell he sent that text is rather distracting?

Any ideas?

Since I was the one that f***ed up the relationship should I leave my pride behind a little and call him?

Updates:

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Thank you guys.


I think there's a little bit of truth in all of your responses. I hope to hell ty-lady is closer to the truth though.

[ty-lady]

Actually by responding to his text a week later probably damaged his ego. If he called early on a monday morning then maybe something made him think of you over the weekend. I think that you did a good job by waiting a week (considering you went thru a 3 month depression) it makes it appear that you are over it and trying to move on. You cannot continue to apologize for the same thing over and over, he has to forgive. I believe that he has not responded because it took you a week so he has to act as if his life is even fuller than one week. I would play it low (not to play games) but that is just the way it goes in life. If you want to start talking to him again, you will probably be the one that will have to make contact now, but still give it a little time. When you do call him make sure you are up on your game of "small talk". you don't want to finally call and have nothing to talk about or nothing new going on in your life. But, at all cost, leave the past in the past and only talk about now, the present. Hope this helps! Peace!

[stercor]

He may want you "in the wings."

It may be that his current relationship isn't going to well (sound familiar?)

He seems to be using you, manipulating you.

Establish firm boundaries with this guy.

You've had a rough go no matter how you look at it, no matter whose "fault" the break-up was.

This guy sounds like a Grade-A, 1st-class jerk.

Maybe send a sympathy card to his current girlfriend? :-)

Ted

[wanacot]

My guess is he is contacting you again because he has someone new and feels secure in that. Knowing he has the new girl he feels more confident to talk with you and possibly rubbing it in your face. Just my guess though.